4 Easy Steps and Tricks for Unlocking Self-Confidence

Confidence is another virtue that defines a gentleman. Confidence is knowing your capabilities and potential and gives you a sense of belonging, physical and mental strength, and respect. You too can easily earn self-confidence today using these few tips.

Confidence might feel like smoke in the skies. Nevertheless, anyone can build confidence in the self with a systematic approach and models. A lack of confidence in the self can result in self-negligence, loss of zeal and ambition, social suicide and shying away from responsibilities.

Self-confidence keeps you happy and ready to carry on. It some worth gives you a level of fulfilment in life. Confidence helps you feel better about yourself and leaves positive vibes that reflect on those around you.

The following are the process and tips for unlocking self-confidence.

1. First Step | Learning:

Leaning is the basis for building self-confidence. This step involves taking a critical look at YOU. The ability to understand the real YOU. In this stage, you should know what IS and what ISN’T.

This step involves a critical analysis of the following. 

• Your hobbies, likes and dislikes,
• Your strength and weaknesses,  
• Your achievements,
• Your desires, goals and aspirations and
• What’s important to you.

You should be able to differentiate what you like from what you do not like. You should be able to figure out your knowledge of things. Also, weigh your achievement, aspirations and what’s important to you, and analyze those you won’t want to let go of at any point.

With realisation of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.

–Dalai Lama

Knowing your capability and faults gives you an edge in dealing with the self.

2. Second Step | Developing:

This step involves developing what isn’t, but needed. The developing stage is applying all available tools, skills and resources to acquire the necessary features for building self-confidence. There are some necessities required to boost your confidence. These requirements, if fully developed, keep you prepared for the next stage.

This developing stage involves developing the physique, physical appearance, language and other characteristics required to boost confidence in the self. The major work lies here. This stage necessitates patience and commitment. This stage is like learning a new language. You know how hard that can be.

We are what we believe we are.

C.S. Lewis

If an individual lacks physical fitness and style but knows that it is required to keep him confident, he/she should not hesitate to cultivate them. Do regular exercise, and spend less time on social media, games and TV. Getting to do what the body hates is a major drive to awakening your self-confidence.

3. Third Step | Action:

This stage is critical and cannot be skipped. It involves acting as an actor and then acting as you simultaneously. There is a way you will approach a prospective client and he or she will retain your proposal. That is acting. And it is different from the way you relate with your family.

“Just believe in yourself. Even if you don’t, pretend that you do and, at some point, you will.” –Venus Williams

Learn how to converse confidently. This is the major area where the initial action takes its course. With time, you will become part of what you preach. It is a principle of acting. Act to get the actual act acted out accurately.

4. Final Step | Living:

Living is the final step to success. It involves succeeding from the acting stage. This stage is equally crucial. It is living confidently in the norms that you build in due course. It entails accepting a new way of life.

This stage is full of downsides. Living a new life has a lot to offer and a lot to take. You may get to lose out on old pals and traditions. You need to adapt to remain self-absorbed in this new quest. You have to live it through. Put this at the back of your mind. It is not over yet.

The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.

Ayn Rand